How to Ask for Help After Birth (And Why Earlier Is Better)

Look, we get it. As moms, we feel pressure to have everything handled on our own. But in reality? There’s no way for you to have it all figured out as a first-time mom. 

Diaper changes, bath time, breastfeeding, sleep training… It’s a lot. That’s why the best decision you can make for yourself (and your baby) is to ask for support. 

Keep reading to understand the best ways to ask for a helping hand when you need it most! 

Why So Many New Moms Struggle to Ask for Help

They say with great power comes great responsibility. And what’s more powerful than creating a human in your womb? After giving birth, moms often feel intense pressure to get everything just right. We place this expectation on ourselves to be perfect, and worry that if we aren’t, we’ll be judged. 

But let’s debunk that myth right now. Every mother can attest to the fact that giving birth and caring for a newborn is an extremely difficult journey. But by placing unrealistic expectations on yourself, you risk isolating yourself in this new chapter of your life. Sometimes, the most powerful decision you can make is to reach out for assistance. 

When Should You Ask for Help After Birth?

You don’t have to wait until after your little one is here to secure support. In fact, the best time to lock in your postpartum help is in the first or second trimester. Before giving birth, we recommend getting a plan in place for…

• Who needs more support during work hours?

• What will night shifts for feeding and soothing look like?

• What chores will we have time for? And which ones can we ignore?

• How will we ensure both of us get at least one 4-hour block of protected sleep?

By planning before your due date, you can focus on bonding with your baby after birth.

What Kind of Help Do New Parents Actually Need?

The number one stressor for new parents is the sleep deprivation that comes with parenthood. In fact, 61% of parents would say sleep is their biggest postpartum challenge. Here are the various types of support you can (and should) use to stay rested after giving birth:

1. Overnight Care

Texas Newborn Nightingales are thoroughly trained and vetted night nurses. We can cover midnight feedings and foster healthy sleep habits while you finally catch some z’s.

2. Daytime Support

After the emotional toll of giving birth, constant support becomes invaluable. Newborn Nightingales’ Daytime Doulas can assist you with breastfeeding, sleeping, bonding with your baby, and even household chores.

3. In-Depth Consultations

By turning to a postpartum professional, you’re able to get the answers to every one of your questions. And all of our consultations are tailored to your needs! (Can be virtual, phone call, or in-person.)

4. Family Support

Let your trusted family and friends support you in those early days! Meal preparation, laundry, and errand running are simple tasks for your loved ones to take care of. Be sure to take them up on their offers to help after birth! 

Planning Before Baby Arrives Changes Everything!

Securing postpartum support before your baby arrives is the best way to set yourself up for success as a new mom. Motherhood is hard enough as it is – you shouldn’t have to figure everything out on your own. 

Connect with our team of Nightingales today to start creating your personalized postpartum plan!